Peanut catastrophe

OK, so that is a little too dramatic. As the parent of a peanut-allergic child, I do wish that it wasn't called an allergy. When people hear that word, they think about runny noses and stinging eyes. They don't associate the word "allergy" with death. The fact is that someone with a severe food allergy can die from ingesting 1/1,000,000 of a peanut. People always say that they understand and then, in the next breath, offer the child something that is peanut-contaminated. I realize that it shouldn't be a problem for other families, but a little concern or empathy would be nice. After all, if no one in your family suffers from a food allergy, then you don't have to deal with the constant concern over possible reactions. You don't have to talk to a restaurant manager every time that you go out to eat. You don't have to worry about someone who has peanut residue (or peanutbutter) on his/her hands touching your child and causing a reaction. You can travel without packing food in case you can't find anywhere for your child to eat. You don't have to deal with your child crying because everyone else can have ice cream, birthday cake, M&M's, many types of crackers and cookies, cake decorations and sprinkles, almost all candy and chocolate, pancake mix, Pizza Hut pizza, and many other things. You can get on a plane without making special arrangements with the airline to not have peanuts on the flight. You don't have to deal with schools that have food allergy policies that they don't uphold. Please enjoy your life and be grateful for what you do have (and what you don't have to think about), but please have some empathy for those of us who have life-threatening issues to deal with at every meal.

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"I found God"

I can't understand when people say this. It is as though they honestly believe that it makes sense. I guess that it is shorter than saying something like, "I finally stopped being so self-involved that I decided to think about right and wrong" or "I really need or want something so it is a convenient time to choose to believe." I do believe that people can lose faith or that they chose to abandon their faith, but the fact is that they make that choice. God wasn't the one who was lost in the first place!

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Parenting versus career

I had no intention of quitting my job to become a full-time, stay-at-home mom, but when a medical error caused my daughter to be born ill and require emergency placement in the NICU, I suddenly had to change my priorities.  (Just so you know, we didn't sue the hospital so it wasn't a decision based on a free ride)!  Having worked outside the home for ten years, I can tell you this -- parenting is much harder!  I admire anyone who chooses to parent full-time voluntarily; it takes courage and the willingness to live without a lot of things.  Many people say that they can't afford to quit their jobs; in talking to those parents, it normally turns out that they aren't willing to give up new cars, trips, nice clothes, and big houses.  Many people also say that they couldn't stand to be at home with their kids all day -- here is a thought...don't have them if you can't stand them!

For those parents who truly do have to work and have kids -- God bless you.  That has to be the hardest situation of all.   Anyone who manages that situation well can do anything!

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